We slept in until 9am...I don't know how that happened, but we were all sure glad it did!
After breakfast, I took the kids to the open market. I knew it would be an eye-opener for Chris and Patty to be in that kind of environment...and that Nastia, who used all her spending money already...would have a reality check.
I'll comment here on spending money before going on. I decided to give both kids some spending money to avoid some situations I was concerned about. I bought them wallets to keep it organized and gave them to the kids the morning we left for Kyiv. See, at our house, the kids have their own money and that is the only way they are going to get gum, juice, toys or anything that is not in the "need" category. We take care of the needs until they have the ability and age to do that themselves with a job of some kind. Until then, if they want something beyond those needs, it is up to them to save and plan and spend accordingly. Often, they learn by spending too much up front and wishing they had been more careful...which is exactly what we want them to learn.
Since I knew our kids would be taking money with which to buy souvenirs, I had to think through the possible scenarios. First, Ruslan and Nastia would come with nothing and it wasn't good for them to be so different from Chris and Patty. However, I wasn't going to be okay with buying anything and everything they may want, but I wasn't going to be okay saying no to it all, either...really, the same issue we have at home. So, the only solution I could see was to give them power over their own choices. We believe that children learn best when given opportunities to choose so they just got initiated into the Morford family by learning the hard way.
Maybe it seems unfair to give a kid from an orphanage some money and put her through this "lesson" right away, but the dynamics of the situation here required it. I would either be saying no all the time or I would be saying yes...which would be against our family ways and would cause pain later on once we're home. We had already had the discussion with them about how we work this at home and I told them myself during our waiting period that they would be getting some spending money to buy things for themselves that would remind them of Ukraine.
I really felt strongly that we needed to start right away with things as they are and will be, rather than giving them a false impression and creating bad habits that would be more painful to break than the pain of reality up front. Life is already changing dramatically for them, might as well have it all out.
Ruslan has bought himself Sprite...once. These are smart kids and I think Nastia will learn from this experience exactly what I hoped she would. It just may have come a little harder and a little faster than I imagined.
|Patty found a cute hat for Lucy.|
|The boys were thrilled to find Ukrainian soccer uniforms...shorts included...for $15. Crazy. They haven't taken them off yet...as a matter of fact, they are sleeping in them right now.|